by EntAllat » Thu Oct 07, 2010 9:46 am
(I've edited this post after-the-fact because, when I reread it, it isn't at all what I wanted it to be: advice on how to type a negative comment that threatens to strangle your muse/depress you and hopefully forestall that from happening. So here's the new, heavily edited, version. I kept the original post if anybody wants it. -EA)
There seem to be two type of comments that really can make my fellow fic writers miserable:
(1) If a comment makes you feel miserable but you're not really sure if it's valid or not (or even what the heck the commenter is trying to say) - ask a friend, or someone you trust to be honest and impartial, to read the comment and give you their perspective on it.
Sometimes you just the need for an affirming opinion - "No, you're not nuts - this was out of line" or "Uh, yeah. I had a WTF reaction to that too." Sometimes a second opinion can clear up an odd comment. Either way, the second opinion can be enough to keep your motivation from getting squashed by the comment.
(2) If a comment is openly negative, then check first if it falls into one of these categories. If it does, it's probably more about something else and not your story, your style or your skill at telling the story. If you can keep that in mind, it tends not to linger as long and be less of a threat to your continued motivation.
a) Different agenda. The reader simply has an opposing a personal or political perspective from the one that you used.
b) Different OTP. The reader may actually like your work but react badly to the pairing your chose or want their own favorite to be included.
c) Nit-pickienss. Purely negative comments pointing out mistakes (valid or not) can drive us nuts. Just try and remember that these are usually about minor details and not necessarily (unless they say so and then they're just kind of an ass) an indication of the commenter's impression of your story as a whole.
d) Venting. The reader may be venting about something completely unrelated to your fiction - maybe a debate from elsewhere has spilled over into the way they saw your fic.
e) Trolling. Unlike the other four, I can't find anything possibly positive about this one. Use what works for you to get it out of your system: talk to friends, go write something else, get away from it. Just try not to engage them since it'll almost never help the situation as far as your own motivation and creativity goes.
What it comes down to is this: If the comment makes you feel depressed, tired and uninspired rather than thoughtful or inspired to make changes, then it's not useful and probably was never intended to be so. Comments that are in bad faith - meant merely to bash an author, a style a perspective, etc - do happen, but rarely is ever actually about your fiction. It's someone who sought an opportunity to to vent about something, cry on your shoulder, or maybe bully you. Try and discover their motivations and it may just help you retain yours.